Controlling behavior and coercive behavior is use by therapists to create precipices (ledges) to throw their clients off.
You have to volunteer to make their control not criminal.
A range of acts making a person subordinate and/or dependent on their abuser. These include isolating them from sources of support, depriving them of means needed for independence, resistance and escape and regulating their everyday behavior.
A pattern of acts of assault, threats, humiliation and intimidation or other abuse that is used to harm, punish, or frighten their victim.
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Example Precipice Ledges for Conflict Transformation
Love bombing you and making you fall for a person who doesn’t exist. The real person they are hiding is disgusting and evil. Trauma Bonding. They get you hooked through the highs and lows of the relationship so it’s almost impossible to leave. Silent Treatments. They either ghost you before you live with them or they do an in house one which is so much fun. At first it hurts, but then you enjoy coming and going as you please.
Triangulation. When they tell you they have all of this interest from potential romantic rivals, or use church involvement and friendships that are more important than you. Parasite behavior. You are their servant as soon as you get home and they are underemployed so you get screwed over twice. Forget being able to watch a show all the way through without having to pause it. Devils advocate. They will never be on your side in anything ever. No refuge at all in a relationship with them.
Withholding affection. They will purposely not kiss you and/or with hold sex. They have every excuse to not provide affection.
Conflict resolution. No such thing, just hours long word salad conversations where it’s your fault at the end. They will sometimes bring up something from years ago you have long forgot. I think it’s a window into their soul that they hate you and can’t forgive.